This year I'm going to move beyond dancing. Even though dancing will play a huge role this year, things I thought were going to be gone and long forgotten are coming back. First, the relationships group that I used to attend when I first moved to Tampa, I'm going back to. Second, believe it or not, I'm going back to RSD.
I thought that I would never return to pickup after sucking at it so badly, but the truth is sucking at it so badly is a horrible reason to quit. In fact, I don't think I should have quit. I tried to go it alone and do my own thing and I thought that the advice given with RSD was really screwing with me and leading me into situations that I would have regretted, but the truth was I was doing really well when I was following RSD. I was getting out, I was having fun moments, etc. Now that I've abandoned pickup this past year, that all went out the window. I never go out to 'the scene' anymore and when I do I'm too stuck in my head to approach and I still fear rejection or humiliation. In other words, all I worked up for went out the window once I decided to go it alone and I need to work back up to it. I can't abandon it until I reach my goals, until it becomes a non issue and I really am focused on other things and not just trying to sweep my problems under the rug.
Two things I really need to get over - 1) Getting rejected and 2) Comparing myself to other guys. I think the latter really causes more problems than the former. While rejection feels bad, at least I can blow it off in certain circumstances. Comparing myself to other guys on the other hand is a much bigger issue and I think that's what's really causing all the depression.
This week is going to be an exciting week.
Sunday, January 8, 2017
Saturday, January 7, 2017
This Week In Dating - 1/7/17
Happy 2017, and welcome to a new series I am starting. I plan to make this a year-long thing because I feel as long as I write about what's going on during the week, I can see trends and continue to work on myself.
So I'm just going to come out and say it - I SUCK at dating. Like worse than anything else and worse than anyone. Why? Who knows. It's really distressing. It's even more distressing how I have people saying "you're such a nice guy you'll find someone soon", knowing they're full of it in that women don't like 'nice guys' even though they say they do. It is really frustrating to say the least. I mean, I'm told i'm a good looking guy, being 6'3 and in shape, have a good career, know how to dance, am independent, etc. Apparently it's not enough.
What really sucks is every time I think I have a system down, the rug is pulled right from underneath me. So now Blue Martini is closing down, or at least moving. Whether there will still be a latin dance night is up in the air.
But this year I really want to get better. This year I want to put this problem behind me once and for all. I keep saying that, but it still stands. Last year was one of the worst years not just in dating but just socializing in general. I went through a huge friends purge, mainly because of the election, and I think I made a couple new friends but not many. Nevertheless, I'm coming off of last year prepared for this year to make things great again.
So I'm going into this year subscribed to a matchmaking service in town. I signed up for the basic service for $99 for the year. I tell them my preferences and all that stuff. However, I wouldn't be surprised if I don't get a call because they work primarily with people who pay for the $4,000/year membership and the $10,000/year membership. Why are dating services so expensive? Are they just so much in demand? I mean, that's money that people just don't have lying around, me especially. If I had the money, would I pay for it? I guess I have no choice. Online dating hasn't been a huge help and I never get any good, proper feedback, which is so important.
In the meantime, I'm signing up for every speed dating and lock 'n key event for my age range. The first lock 'n key I went to this year, this past week, was pretty much a let down. I wasn't into any of the girls there. I think I only selected one girl because she was at least somewhat attractive and I seemed to get along with her but still not totally my type. The irony is the only girls out of the seven who selected me were the one who was most critical about me and my dating skills and the friend she brought along. Did I do something right, or did she just select every guy there? Or maybe she knew if no one selected me that I would have gotten a free event and she didn't want that to happen? Nah, that would have been too clever. Whatever the reason was, I wasn't interested in either so I'm not going to contact them back. Nevertheless, I need to keep going to these events, even if it takes me to the end of the year.
I can talk about dancing too, something I'm going to be doing more and more of this year including private lessons, which I'm really looking forward to. I feel the dance floor is my place to shine, but a lot of times it can be difficult when the girls are either not attractive or the girls that are attractive are already in serious relationships or are just not compatable, but I think that's going to be the case no matter where I go or what I do. That's why I really hate it and beat myself up when that rare occurrence comes up of me dancing with a girl who I have a feeling is into me but I'm afraid to get rejected or get embarrassed or whatever, even though the scenarios that always pop into my head are very unlikely to happen. But nevertheless, I'm looking forward to tonight's bachata social.
Until next week.
So I'm just going to come out and say it - I SUCK at dating. Like worse than anything else and worse than anyone. Why? Who knows. It's really distressing. It's even more distressing how I have people saying "you're such a nice guy you'll find someone soon", knowing they're full of it in that women don't like 'nice guys' even though they say they do. It is really frustrating to say the least. I mean, I'm told i'm a good looking guy, being 6'3 and in shape, have a good career, know how to dance, am independent, etc. Apparently it's not enough.
What really sucks is every time I think I have a system down, the rug is pulled right from underneath me. So now Blue Martini is closing down, or at least moving. Whether there will still be a latin dance night is up in the air.
But this year I really want to get better. This year I want to put this problem behind me once and for all. I keep saying that, but it still stands. Last year was one of the worst years not just in dating but just socializing in general. I went through a huge friends purge, mainly because of the election, and I think I made a couple new friends but not many. Nevertheless, I'm coming off of last year prepared for this year to make things great again.
So I'm going into this year subscribed to a matchmaking service in town. I signed up for the basic service for $99 for the year. I tell them my preferences and all that stuff. However, I wouldn't be surprised if I don't get a call because they work primarily with people who pay for the $4,000/year membership and the $10,000/year membership. Why are dating services so expensive? Are they just so much in demand? I mean, that's money that people just don't have lying around, me especially. If I had the money, would I pay for it? I guess I have no choice. Online dating hasn't been a huge help and I never get any good, proper feedback, which is so important.
In the meantime, I'm signing up for every speed dating and lock 'n key event for my age range. The first lock 'n key I went to this year, this past week, was pretty much a let down. I wasn't into any of the girls there. I think I only selected one girl because she was at least somewhat attractive and I seemed to get along with her but still not totally my type. The irony is the only girls out of the seven who selected me were the one who was most critical about me and my dating skills and the friend she brought along. Did I do something right, or did she just select every guy there? Or maybe she knew if no one selected me that I would have gotten a free event and she didn't want that to happen? Nah, that would have been too clever. Whatever the reason was, I wasn't interested in either so I'm not going to contact them back. Nevertheless, I need to keep going to these events, even if it takes me to the end of the year.
I can talk about dancing too, something I'm going to be doing more and more of this year including private lessons, which I'm really looking forward to. I feel the dance floor is my place to shine, but a lot of times it can be difficult when the girls are either not attractive or the girls that are attractive are already in serious relationships or are just not compatable, but I think that's going to be the case no matter where I go or what I do. That's why I really hate it and beat myself up when that rare occurrence comes up of me dancing with a girl who I have a feeling is into me but I'm afraid to get rejected or get embarrassed or whatever, even though the scenarios that always pop into my head are very unlikely to happen. But nevertheless, I'm looking forward to tonight's bachata social.
Until next week.
Saturday, December 31, 2016
2016 - A Year in Review
This year, instead of spending a lot of time going over events that happened this past year in chronological order, I will sum up things. I will list the top 10 worst things of 2016, the top 10 best things, and the top 10 things I hope to happen in 2017. Here we go
TOP TEN WORST THINGS OF 2016
1) The fall out of Pickup - after five years of following pickup and with RSD especially, it all ended shortly after the World Conference and Miami 5-Day bootcamp in February. Shortly after, my pursuit of pickup ended.
2) Didn't make many friends in 2016 - I felt like I completely regressed in that department.
3) The demise of the SoHo nightlife - After falling out of pickup, the SoHo nightlife became almost impossible for me. While there were some interesting nights especially around Halloween, SoHo was never the same for me and vowed to never return until things change for the better.
4) Dating/Sex life didn't improve one bit, despite efforts at the beginning of the year and sporadic efforts throughout the year.
5) Uncle passes away. I saw this one coming and it was only a matter of time.
6) Lot of celebrities, some famous icons some lesser known, passed away this year, and it seemed like many passed away this year alone.
7) Fallout with friends. I lost way more friends this year than I've gained, including people I was friends with back 10-20 years ago. Most of it was due to the election, one was due to outright betrayal, and another was because I told her to get out of my business.
8) The temporary fallout with the Tampa salsa community. Glad that was saved.
9) No more network marketing, after completely quitting cold on Nikken and a failed attempt at a Beachbody business.
10) Obama just went insane this past year despite there being more terrorist attacks and conflicts in the streets and he got even crazier after he lost the election.
and now onto the TOP TEN BEST THINGS OF 2016
1) Moved to SoHo after wanting to do so for the last few years.
2) Didn't struggle financially as much as I did the last 8 years.
3) Got into Historical European Martial Arts, basically reviving my interest and practice in fencing
4) Trump won the election against all odds and showed that proud, hard working Americans still make up a great majority in this country.
5) Ran my first marathon
6) The year started really well, with an awesome makeout session and there were a few more to follow
7) Got to visit the mountains of North Carolina after wanting to do so for so long
8) Visited New York again, this time for my first out of state Salsa Congress
9) Visited St. Augustine after having to keep postponing that trip for many years
10) Got promoted to supervisor at work
and now TOP TEN THINGS I HOPE WILL HAPPEN IN 2017
1) This nation gets back on track and things become stable again in our government and America becomes great again.
2) I go to Disney a lot, something I haven't done once in over a decade
3) My dating/sex life improves DRASTICALLY
4) I become more social and outgoing
5) I travel to some awesome places
6) I work in New York, whether it be a week, a month, 10 months, whatever
7) Things in SoHo become great again, like they start having a legit Latin night over at HPC
8) I stay in shape and don't fall off the wayside
9) I read more books on my favorite subjects
10) I continue to move up in my career
Happy 2017 everyone!
Thursday, December 29, 2016
It's Official - SoHo No More
Well that settles it - When an anti-anxiety drug everyone raves about can't help, there's not much more I can do in my current situation. In 2017, I will no longer be partaking in the nightlife in SoHo. I am tired of trying to fit in. I've tried, many times, to hang out at venues, meet people, and even hook up. The problem is it just comes down to me not fitting in.
I first started hanging out in SoHo some months after moving to Tampa five years ago when I wanted to just check out a nightclub in general. I was starting to get into the whole pickup thing at the time, and before I was never a big fan of going to nightclubs but I wanted to give one a shot, so I chose to go to one in an area called Hyde Park/SoHo that offered salsa lessons at the beginning of the night. From there, I became hooked and this opened so many new possibilities for me. But alas, those days are over. That venue no longer does the salsa classes or even has a true latin night anymore. There was a time in SoHo when you didn't have to be a frat boy type or bro-dawg to have a good time. There were definitely venues that catered to that, but there were also venues that catered to other interests - ones that were much more classy and attracted different types of people. Now every venue tries to cater to the frat boys, the moron douchebags, the sorority snobs, the grinders, etc. and there's no escaping it. It really sucks too because I moved down here this past year just to be closer to the venues and the Starbucks/Panera I always hang out at. Now the venues are obsolete and there are better venues for me to hang out at elsewhere.
With that said, I will still live here. After all, it's still relatively affordable with a roommate and all and it's one of the only walkable places in Tampa next to downtown and within a close distance to everything. And who knows, maybe someone or some great force out there in the universe will make SoHo great again. Until then, I will avoid the nightlife. In fact, I may even skip town on Gasparilla weekend this coming year. What sucks is no matter what my friend I'm living about it won't shut up about how I'm missing out on hot women or something like that, even though they're incompatible hot women usually and there are better hot women at dance socials or other venues. Also I may still go to whatever pool socials they have at the apartment once the spring/summer rolls around.
Who knows though? Maybe things will work in my favor and I may find motivation and reason to go out there again without having to struggle. For now though, it's time to put it to rest.
I first started hanging out in SoHo some months after moving to Tampa five years ago when I wanted to just check out a nightclub in general. I was starting to get into the whole pickup thing at the time, and before I was never a big fan of going to nightclubs but I wanted to give one a shot, so I chose to go to one in an area called Hyde Park/SoHo that offered salsa lessons at the beginning of the night. From there, I became hooked and this opened so many new possibilities for me. But alas, those days are over. That venue no longer does the salsa classes or even has a true latin night anymore. There was a time in SoHo when you didn't have to be a frat boy type or bro-dawg to have a good time. There were definitely venues that catered to that, but there were also venues that catered to other interests - ones that were much more classy and attracted different types of people. Now every venue tries to cater to the frat boys, the moron douchebags, the sorority snobs, the grinders, etc. and there's no escaping it. It really sucks too because I moved down here this past year just to be closer to the venues and the Starbucks/Panera I always hang out at. Now the venues are obsolete and there are better venues for me to hang out at elsewhere.
With that said, I will still live here. After all, it's still relatively affordable with a roommate and all and it's one of the only walkable places in Tampa next to downtown and within a close distance to everything. And who knows, maybe someone or some great force out there in the universe will make SoHo great again. Until then, I will avoid the nightlife. In fact, I may even skip town on Gasparilla weekend this coming year. What sucks is no matter what my friend I'm living about it won't shut up about how I'm missing out on hot women or something like that, even though they're incompatible hot women usually and there are better hot women at dance socials or other venues. Also I may still go to whatever pool socials they have at the apartment once the spring/summer rolls around.
Who knows though? Maybe things will work in my favor and I may find motivation and reason to go out there again without having to struggle. For now though, it's time to put it to rest.
Tuesday, December 27, 2016
One More Chance In SoHo
2016 is coming to a close, and I have decided to create an ultimatum. I have decided to give SoHo in Tampa just one more chance before the year ends. Just one more. That will be this Thursday, the 29th. If things don't go well, if I don't genuinely feel like I'm having fun or having a good time, if I feel like shit when I'm there or when I come home, then that will be the end of it - I will not be present in the SoHo nightlife in 2017. Hell, this could mean that during Gasparilla I could just go out of town for that weekend, even considering going to Miami - a place I vowed never to go back to - for their salsa congress.
Ever since I moved to Tampa, SoHo was the place I primarily hung out at. It's the place where PUA bootcamp instructors would take their students if there ever was a PUA bootcamp in Tampa. I've gone out, I had fun, but I struggled way more than I felt I should have. Still, I wanted to move to the SoHo area since I started hanging out there, and this past year I finally got to - only to no longer want to hang out in SoHo and go elsewhere. This mainly happened after falling out of the Good Looking Loser program, having an overall bad experience on the Miami 5-day bootcamp that I had a lot of hope for, and just dropping pickup altogether. I keep thinking maybe dropping pickup was a mistake and I should have stuck with it, but the truth is I wasn't doing myself good when I was in it; I wasn't being authentic with myself and at the end of the day I wasn't doing much better. Lot had changed as well in SoHo with the removal of authentic Latin nights at the clubs and changes to karaoke nights this past year.
The truth is I no longer have to go out to SoHo; there are better venues elsewhere in Tampa and even in Orlando. I still justify going to SoHo however because now I'm within walking distance, but it's like this past year especially I never liked going out and dealing with moron douchebags and stuckup bitchy women.
Thursday I'm going all out. I have that day off from work, I have the next day off from work. I have no excuse not to go all out. This will be a day when I really will use a full dosage of Phenibut, which I have not used yet save one small dose a couple weeks ago. This time I'll use the full benefit of the Phenibut, to help me get through the pain periods, the anxiety, and things that make me feel awful whenever I go out to these venues. All I gotta say is if Phenibut does little to nothing to help me out, help me make the night as awesome as I'd like it to be, then nothing will. Absolutely nothing will. Not in my current state, nothing. I would have to undergo a DRASTIC change in order for things to change. That means developing a beneficial social circle among other things.
So will Thursday night be the last night in SoHo? I will write all about it, what happened, whether the phenibut helped or not, etc.
Ever since I moved to Tampa, SoHo was the place I primarily hung out at. It's the place where PUA bootcamp instructors would take their students if there ever was a PUA bootcamp in Tampa. I've gone out, I had fun, but I struggled way more than I felt I should have. Still, I wanted to move to the SoHo area since I started hanging out there, and this past year I finally got to - only to no longer want to hang out in SoHo and go elsewhere. This mainly happened after falling out of the Good Looking Loser program, having an overall bad experience on the Miami 5-day bootcamp that I had a lot of hope for, and just dropping pickup altogether. I keep thinking maybe dropping pickup was a mistake and I should have stuck with it, but the truth is I wasn't doing myself good when I was in it; I wasn't being authentic with myself and at the end of the day I wasn't doing much better. Lot had changed as well in SoHo with the removal of authentic Latin nights at the clubs and changes to karaoke nights this past year.
The truth is I no longer have to go out to SoHo; there are better venues elsewhere in Tampa and even in Orlando. I still justify going to SoHo however because now I'm within walking distance, but it's like this past year especially I never liked going out and dealing with moron douchebags and stuckup bitchy women.
Thursday I'm going all out. I have that day off from work, I have the next day off from work. I have no excuse not to go all out. This will be a day when I really will use a full dosage of Phenibut, which I have not used yet save one small dose a couple weeks ago. This time I'll use the full benefit of the Phenibut, to help me get through the pain periods, the anxiety, and things that make me feel awful whenever I go out to these venues. All I gotta say is if Phenibut does little to nothing to help me out, help me make the night as awesome as I'd like it to be, then nothing will. Absolutely nothing will. Not in my current state, nothing. I would have to undergo a DRASTIC change in order for things to change. That means developing a beneficial social circle among other things.
So will Thursday night be the last night in SoHo? I will write all about it, what happened, whether the phenibut helped or not, etc.
Wednesday, December 7, 2016
Using Phenibut
Aaron Sleazy posted a recent blog entry about Nootropics, and one of the most common that kept getting mentioned was phenibut. You can read the article here:
http://blog.aaronsleazy.com/index.php/2016/12/04/open-discussion-nootropics/
Ever since I started going out, I never took any anti-anxiety supplements or drugs or whatever. All I did was drink, and I usually only drink beer when I go out; never hard liquor except on occasion. When I do drink, I usually cut it off at 2-4 because it gets too expensive and I feel groggy when I drink too much alcohol. Plus I have a high tolerance for alcohol. In other words, it does little to nothing to help with whatever anxiety I have in place.
So this is where a drug like phenibut comes in. I ordered 200 g of it from LiftMode and am looking forward to trying it out and see how it effects me. I don't know how much I need to take in order for it to have any effect on me, but hopefully it will suppress at least most of the anxiety I feel when I go out to a venue where there's a lot of hot women or when I'm dancing with a hot girl I could potentially make out with. Right now, it's so out of control that it's just crippling, and nothing I can do on my own right now is really helping. Hopefully something like this helps. I even had friends tell me about their experiences with it and it sounds like a big secret of many guys when they go out.
I'll update everyone when I get it and try it out the first time. Hopefully it will push me to a successful night.
Saturday, November 26, 2016
On Rejection
I keep meaning to write in this blog, but I keep putting it off because of the time and focus commitment. I'm thinking I should go back to video blogs, which were much easier to make because all I had to do was ramble in front of a camera for however long. Just need to free up a lot of the storage on my phone.
Rejection is a subject that has risen to the top of the lists this year especially, and has been the key challenge I have faced especially when it comes to meeting and dating women. This hasn't just been the case with pickup, but this has been the case across the board.
To put it bluntly, I don't deal with rejection very well - at least not with women. I don't think I ever handled it well. Even as a kid, I hated the idea of going over to a friends' house and knocking on the door to ask if so-and-so is there, fearing that said friend wasn't there or couldn't come out to play, etc. and have the door slammed on my face or feel embarrassed for some reason. I even feared going up to the counter at a store to ask for something as simple as a refill on a drink (this was back when most places you had to ask for a refill at the counter and only a handful had the self-serve fountain drinks). Maybe it was because I was told no one time harshly or because I was afraid of people who worked somewhere because I was a little kid, or whatever. I remember having to get my mom, dad or sister to come up to the counter with me whenever I wanted something.
Now obviously I don't have these sort of anxiety issues today, but with women it's still a major issue. I think it's an issue for this reason - women reject guys, and guys who put themselves out there risk the chance of getting shot down hard. When I was in elementary and middle school, I never asked any girl out. I really wasn't in any position to date anyways, but I thought the ridicule would have been too great if I got shot down and I wouldn't have been able to live with the embarrassment. What I would do was obsess over one girl every year, thinking it would be nice to go out with that girl but not doing so - not because of the fear of rejection but because of what ridicule I would face if I did get involved. News travels fast, and I wasn't exactly the most popular kid in school. In high school, things did get a tad bit better, but it was still more of the same obsessing over one girl a year. In fact, this whole obsessing over one girl a year didn't stop until just five years ago, when I started learning pickup. I learned how bad oneitis is, and I will give pickup credit for helping me rid myself of that. However, I think one of the reasons why I had the oneitis in the first place was because I thought the girl was the best match at the time and yet I still didn't want to screw things up.
Pickup didn't make my fear of rejection go away. It may have subdued it a little. It may have allowed me to take more risks. But the truth of the matter is it in some ways made things worse. See when it comes to rejection, pickup companies are not clear on what they want to teach men and many times just outright contradict their own advice. I would say just about all of them have no problems giving a long ass speech about how guys should not fear rejection but should embrace it, take it on, just get as many rejections as possible because that's how you learn not to care, etc. However, once that speech is over, then they'll get into tactics, strategies, gimmicks, etc. on what body language you should convey, what you should be doing while you're out, what you should say to a girl when you approach her, how you should go about asking for the number, etc. and the more mainstream pickup groups will even go as far as telling you that you can switch on attraction triggers with any girl and if you don't then you executed step 2-B wrong or some bullshit like that. I know it's all to sell overpriced ebooks and videos and even more overpriced bootcamps, because if you just tell guys to be themselves and stop looking to women for approval and screen girls out, they wouldn't be in business. This idea of "ploughing through" has never worked. Sure, maybe a girl might not be agreeable at first, but if she flat out doesn't like you, there really isn't any super technique you can do to change that. It's better to be your real self instead of putting on a front as a means to avoid rejection and get what I call fake success. I mean, if you're an accountant for example, and you have to make up some story about how you are a professional assassin because some pickup guru told you to say that because she would think you're boring otherwise, isn't that not only being inauthentic but downright missing the point? It also made meeting women into a spectator sport.
I think I need to stop at this for now. There's so much more I want to say on it, but I'm running a marathon tomorrow. If I survive, I will speak more of this later.
Rejection is a subject that has risen to the top of the lists this year especially, and has been the key challenge I have faced especially when it comes to meeting and dating women. This hasn't just been the case with pickup, but this has been the case across the board.
To put it bluntly, I don't deal with rejection very well - at least not with women. I don't think I ever handled it well. Even as a kid, I hated the idea of going over to a friends' house and knocking on the door to ask if so-and-so is there, fearing that said friend wasn't there or couldn't come out to play, etc. and have the door slammed on my face or feel embarrassed for some reason. I even feared going up to the counter at a store to ask for something as simple as a refill on a drink (this was back when most places you had to ask for a refill at the counter and only a handful had the self-serve fountain drinks). Maybe it was because I was told no one time harshly or because I was afraid of people who worked somewhere because I was a little kid, or whatever. I remember having to get my mom, dad or sister to come up to the counter with me whenever I wanted something.
Now obviously I don't have these sort of anxiety issues today, but with women it's still a major issue. I think it's an issue for this reason - women reject guys, and guys who put themselves out there risk the chance of getting shot down hard. When I was in elementary and middle school, I never asked any girl out. I really wasn't in any position to date anyways, but I thought the ridicule would have been too great if I got shot down and I wouldn't have been able to live with the embarrassment. What I would do was obsess over one girl every year, thinking it would be nice to go out with that girl but not doing so - not because of the fear of rejection but because of what ridicule I would face if I did get involved. News travels fast, and I wasn't exactly the most popular kid in school. In high school, things did get a tad bit better, but it was still more of the same obsessing over one girl a year. In fact, this whole obsessing over one girl a year didn't stop until just five years ago, when I started learning pickup. I learned how bad oneitis is, and I will give pickup credit for helping me rid myself of that. However, I think one of the reasons why I had the oneitis in the first place was because I thought the girl was the best match at the time and yet I still didn't want to screw things up.
Pickup didn't make my fear of rejection go away. It may have subdued it a little. It may have allowed me to take more risks. But the truth of the matter is it in some ways made things worse. See when it comes to rejection, pickup companies are not clear on what they want to teach men and many times just outright contradict their own advice. I would say just about all of them have no problems giving a long ass speech about how guys should not fear rejection but should embrace it, take it on, just get as many rejections as possible because that's how you learn not to care, etc. However, once that speech is over, then they'll get into tactics, strategies, gimmicks, etc. on what body language you should convey, what you should be doing while you're out, what you should say to a girl when you approach her, how you should go about asking for the number, etc. and the more mainstream pickup groups will even go as far as telling you that you can switch on attraction triggers with any girl and if you don't then you executed step 2-B wrong or some bullshit like that. I know it's all to sell overpriced ebooks and videos and even more overpriced bootcamps, because if you just tell guys to be themselves and stop looking to women for approval and screen girls out, they wouldn't be in business. This idea of "ploughing through" has never worked. Sure, maybe a girl might not be agreeable at first, but if she flat out doesn't like you, there really isn't any super technique you can do to change that. It's better to be your real self instead of putting on a front as a means to avoid rejection and get what I call fake success. I mean, if you're an accountant for example, and you have to make up some story about how you are a professional assassin because some pickup guru told you to say that because she would think you're boring otherwise, isn't that not only being inauthentic but downright missing the point? It also made meeting women into a spectator sport.
I think I need to stop at this for now. There's so much more I want to say on it, but I'm running a marathon tomorrow. If I survive, I will speak more of this later.
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