My Best Seductions Required Little To No Effort On My Part (And Why Pickup Is BULLSHIT!)

I'm really surprised that Penn & Teller never did an episode of the Bullshit show about the pickup community.  After all, they covered things such as aliens, ghosts, organic food, astrology, and even went after the self-help industry as well as network marketing/MLM companies.  The closest they ever came to an episode knocking the pickup community was the season 2 episode "The Business of Love", which bashed dating advice and modern dating customs in general.  I heard that they even tried to get Ross Jeffries on the show but he declined.  I would have loved to have seen an episode where Penn & Teller mock pickup by saying some stupid canned lines to the women they usually have on the set, and then have the camera crew go around interviewing local lairs and showing a live recording of a bootcamp.  I heard there were so many episode ideas that they were considering for the Bullshit show but had to handpick a few.  Hopefully Penn & Teller will bring the show back someday, even though now it might be unlikely they would create an episode on pickup since it's a dying industry.

Just briefly, I want to summarize my best seductions and why Neil Strauss and other 'gurus' would discredit them.  My best seductions were mainly through dancing.  Because I'm a relatively good dancer, having been involved with the latin dance scene for the past four years, many girls find that attractive.  I don't even have to say a word; I can just ease into a makeout and go from there if I can tell the girl is into me.  But guess what Neil Strauss, the "greatest pickup artist in the world", told me personally?  That dancing with a girl doesn't count as physical escalation (or 'kino' escalation as they like to call it).  How does it not count?  If a girl dances with me, it's by choice; it's not like it's a forced arrangement.  Plus, the majority of girls I dance with are complete strangers.  Granted, there are girls who just like dancing and have no interest in most of the guys she dances with, but I can certainly escalate much faster through dancing, especially through more seductive dances like bachata or kizomba, with very little effort on my part than I can if I throw out some shitty-ass canned lines and magic tricks/bar cons like Neil and other gurus in the community tell you you're supposed to do.  Nevertheless, I was an ignorant motherfucker at the time and believed what the guys with the credibility to their names said.  In other words, straight up drinking the kool-aid.  It really set me back and make me shoot myself in the foot many times with all the garbage theory thrown out there, like how you shouldn't make out with a girl on the dance floor, or you need to build attraction before you can escalate and if she backs off from your physical advances then you somehow didn't build enough attraction, or if she flakes on you than you screwed something up in the interaction, never taking into account where the girl is coming from.  

The irony is that the pickup industry likes to point out a lot of myths with conventional wisdom, yet they create a lot of myths of their own.  The first myth is that women are far more into a guy's personality than they are with his looks, lifestyle, etc.  Yes, a good personality does help, but that's true with both genders.  The pickup industry however leads you to believe that women are some completely different alien race that have crazy psychic powers yet can be fooled into becoming attracted to a guy if he just has the perfect body language and he says the most intriguing and funny things, even if he is obese and lives with his parents.  That leads into the second myth, how a guy's attraction for a woman is like a light switch, in that a guy will automatically be attracted to a girl just by looking at her, and a girl's attraction for a guy is like a volume knob, meaning that a girl's attraction builds if the guy does all the right things, passes her shit tests, etc.  Again, this is really stupid.  First off, if this were really the case, online dating would be pretty much useless since there's not real way to express yourself on those sites and the best way to convey yourself is through your pictures.  While women do get more emotional over certain things, at the end of the day they are not much different at all from men; women are attracted to hot guys as much as men are attracted to hot girls.  Of course there's other factors for a guy such as how much money he makes or what his social status is, and his ability to lead is taken into consideration as well.

One of the biggest fallacies of pickup is how they tell you to be the buyer; not the seller, but at the same time they suggest going up to every girl in the venue and 'plow' through interactions and 'burn them to the ground', even if the girl is clearly not interested from the getgo.  Some examples even include talking to a totally non-receptive girl for seven minutes or more for the mere chance that she'll cave and then fuck you after.  Pickup also focuses mainly on talking your way into a girl's pants.  RSD has mixed views on this seeing that they're rooted in traditional pickup, but most other companies believe you have to build attraction by telling intriguing stories and being cocky/funny, etc.  I personally am not a big talker.  Never have been, and I get annoyed by people who talk for ten minutes on a point that they could have summed up in 10 seconds, which makes me think I would fit in better in New York City.  Talking over loud music at a club is especially annoying.  I realize now that a lot of pickup advice comes from guys who don't go to a lot of clubs often but might go to a couple just to say they go to clubs, and the ones who do go aren't successful.  Girls are not in clubs to have a 'nice' conversation and to listen to some random dude's intriguing stories.

More on this later.